When my husband passed away suddenly at the end of March, 1998, I lost myself at the same time. After two months of shock and numbness, I felt the heartache the first time in my life. I was too depressed to work. I had to search for help. Most of my friends are at my age. They are lucky not to have such a tragic experience. They couldn't understand my feelings and didn't know how to help. I talked with chaplains and psychiatrists. I joined the local supporting groups. Then I found online information about grief. I was in widownet for several months. They are great peoples. They open their hearts to others, help each other during their own tragedy. I got a lot of comfort from them and recovered gradually and healthily.

I made a memorial page for my husband in June, 1998 and posted it in Virtual Memorials. I got a lot of e mail from others. I really wanted to communicate with more Chinese people who has similar loss scenarios. I search the net but wasn't able to find any such sites.I planed to make a Chinese Memorial page for my husband and checked a lotof web sites in China and found no appropriate place to put the page.

Finally I decide to create my own site at my husband's one year anniversary, which is March 29, 1999. I wish people who come here can get some helpful information and a little bit of comfort. I am not a computer expert and I am also busy with my work and child, it will take me sometime to finish all the constructions. I will try to translate the helpful infomation as much as possible. I left China several years ago. I need all your help to get more related information in Chinese.

I hope to see more Chinese web sites coming to address death, grief, recovery, etc. from various perspectives.